Years ago I uploaded a photo of myself on Facebook, and someone commented ‘watch your weight.’ I don’t even remember the photo but I remember that comment clearly. This isn’t someone I’m friends with. I hadn’t seen or spoken to this person in ages, we once sang in the same choir while in school and that was it. (I know, I know! I need to tell you guys all about this chorister side of me, and how my music career packed up before it even begun.)

I was surprised at the audacity and irritated by his rudeness. If BMI is anything to go by mine was borderline underweight at the time, so I wondered what it was about the photo that made him post that comment. I guess I’ll never know.

I’m not sure where this story is headed, but I’d like to ask why you’re not following me on instagram @iember_writes

I’d also like to tell you that I have no weight loss secrets. Do you, and let people be. If you’re compelled to advise someone on their weight, do so kindly. Also remember “You have put on some weight” is not an appropriate greeting. You’re welcome.